The eyes

Let’s show some gratitude for our eyes today. First of all, that you even have eyes to read this. That you have eyes to spend countless hours scrolling through social media. That you have eyes to pick out the best filter on IG.
But more importantly that you have eyes to see your loved ones. Let’s show some gratitude to be able to see your loved ones smile, to see their facial expressions when they’re proud of you, when they love you.  

Let’s show some gratitude for your eyes because they give you the ability to drive or ride your bike or your skateboard. They give you an independence to go somewhere on your own. Your eyes let you cook food for yourself with ease. Your eyes allow you to swipe left on Tinder for that guy that is trying waaaay too hard. Your eyes can alert you of danger before it comes close to you.  

Most of us have this ability to see, a simple sense we take for granted, but that gives us so many gifts. And how many times have you been grateful for your eyes? They only rest when you close them.

Let’s show some gratitude for our eyes. What makes you grateful for your eyes?

Dating Journal Question #6

Catch up on Questions #1-5 (especially #5 because it does the groundwork for this question).

Very important question below!

Each in the Dating Journal Questions peels back a layer to the way we interact in a relationship. The following questions are very important if you are looking to create and have a healthy relationship. Please do at least #5, but ideally #1-5, to be able to make bigger realizations and shifts for your highest good and optimal healing.

Question #6

How do you interpret love? Continue reading “Dating Journal Question #6”

Stop giving away your power, star dust

A channeled message.

I don’t know who this message is for but I know it will reach you. Enjoy…

Stop giving your power away. You’re a divine being of the Universe. You are literally made of star dust. Start acting like it.

You are not at the mercy of anything other than your own mind. You’re not at the mercy of what he said, she said, he did, she did, they did. No. You are only a prisoner to your own mind. Set yourself free. You don’t have to carry everyone else’s lessons too. Just your own. Stop trying to make yourself smaller, easier, more loveable, more manageable. You are meant to be as wild as the sea from which you were born. Stop denying your nature. Stop trying to fit in other people’s small world view. These things weren’t meant for you, little one. So stop trying. Stop trying to be a thing lesser than what you already are. You are a god. A goddess. You are the master of your own mental landscape.

Stop giving the keys away to other people. Especially those who have not earned it. Sometimes they don’t deserve you, little one. No matter how much you wish they did. So forgive. And let get go. Because you no longer need to be burdened with the lessons those before you could not learn. Put it down. Put down everything that doesn’t belong to you. And there’s a lot. Because you’re a feeler. You’re a care-er. A giver. A healer. You take on the pain of those around you so they don’t have to feel it. But it’s not your pain. It’s not your lesson. You can’t heal another’s wound. Especially if they keep picking at it and re-infecting it themselves. So put it down little one. Take your hands off of other people’s wounds. Let them bleed. Let them learn. Not because you’re heartless. Not because you don’t care.  Not because they don’t matter. But because you’re giving your power away.

You’re draining your vital energy into something that people can’t heal from the outside. Everyone must heal from the inside out. Even the people you love. Even YOU. So stop trying to bring people to the light. You can’t make people see when they refuse to open their eyes. Instead, heal yourself inside out and live the light. Be the light for everyone around you.

You’re made of star dust.

You’re a divine being made from the stuff of the heavens.

Start acting like it.

Continue reading “Stop giving away your power, star dust”

What self-love looks like

8 behaviors that create and define self-love

The following habits are both causes and symptoms of self-love.

  1. Making your own health (mental, emotional, physical, or spiritual) a priority
    • This doesn’t always mean “me over you,” but that your needs and health are a top priority
  2. Taking care of yourself and your needs
    • If you need a day to in bed, take that day
  3. Accepting yourself wholly and unconditionally
    • Not judging yourself
    • It’s accepting even your least favorite parts of yourself (this doesn’t mean settling, it means accepting yourself as you are and taking responsibility for your choices, habits, feelings, and lifestyle)
  4. Pushing yourself gently and lovingly to do and be your best while keeping in mind the aforementioned points
    • Best means something different to everyone
    • “Best” for an athlete is going mean something different than “best” for a student, or a doctor, or a model, or a stay at home mom, or a cancer survivor…each of these people’s respective bests are going to be different therefore it’s important not to compare “bests”
  5. Creating  and learning to trust yourself
    • This means being completely honest with yourself
    • If you can’t trust yourself to take care of yourself, it’ll be difficult not to sabotage positive behaviors and/or to not judge yourself
    • The question is: Can you really love yourself wholly if you don’t trust yourself?
  6. The way you feel about yourself is independent of other people’s approval or validation
    • No one can give you enough love to fill you up or make you feel worthy if you don’t give yourself love, as we’ve all discovered at some point
    • Conversely, no one can decrease your “love-ablity” or worthiness when you’re full of self-created-love because you’re constantly replenishing yourself
    • Others cannot take away from that because you have an endless supply of love inside of you
  7. Being brave for yourself
    • Often times, this is in the quietest of ways, like allowing yourself to cry when you’re sad or giving yourself space from a toxic person
  8. The ultimate self-love is treating everyone else with the same love that you give yourself

    • Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for your relationship with everyone so if you’re treating yourself with unconditional love, you are setting the tone and the energetic vibration for a loving relationship with everyone around you.

Self-love means…

The definition of self-love I learned on my own journey

What self-love means to me is…fighting for yourself. Fighting for yourself without allowing for surrender. There’s no option to surrender because surrendering is too dark to consider. Of course, there are times for rest. There are times for retreating, reevaluating, and changing strategies. There are times to venture alone and times to recruit help. Self-love is sometimes tears. Self-love is “no” when you want to say no and “yes” when you want to say yes and never the other way around. It is battles behind closed doors that no one ever sees where you beat back the darkness with the light. Even if sometimes the light seems to fade away too quickly. Self-love is being completely vulnerable with yourself. It’s acknowledging and looking at the shadowy parts of yourself, the parts you hide away or you’d rather not see, and saying, “it’s ok.” Self-love is a muscle, a tree, a building. It doesn’t just happen, it grows. You don’t wake up one morning bursting with self-love. You fill yourself up, one drop at a time, until it’s a regular rhythm of your life. 

Body Image Journal Prompts

Grab your Purge journal, find a private place, and let’s clean out some emotional wounds!

Let the emotions and words flow freely. There’s no right or wrong. It’s possible in your journaling to connect to things that originally felt unrelated or that you didn’t want to look into. Do what feels safe and comfortable. Stretch yourself but only to the point that is safe. Remember emotions are temporary, especially if we express them in a healthy way like writing. And they become even more temporary and manageable the more we process them in these healthy ways.

Enjoy uncovering the layers and good luck!

If your body never changed from this moment, could you love and accept yourself wholly? Continue reading “Body Image Journal Prompts”