What self-love looks like

8 behaviors that create and define self-love

The following habits are both causes and symptoms of self-love.

  1. Making your own health (mental, emotional, physical, or spiritual) a priority
    • This doesn’t always mean “me over you,” but that your needs and health are a top priority
  2. Taking care of yourself and your needs
    • If you need a day to in bed, take that day
  3. Accepting yourself wholly and unconditionally
    • Not judging yourself
    • It’s accepting even your least favorite parts of yourself (this doesn’t mean settling, it means accepting yourself as you are and taking responsibility for your choices, habits, feelings, and lifestyle)
  4. Pushing yourself gently and lovingly to do and be your best while keeping in mind the aforementioned points
    • Best means something different to everyone
    • “Best” for an athlete is going mean something different than “best” for a student, or a doctor, or a model, or a stay at home mom, or a cancer survivor…each of these people’s respective bests are going to be different therefore it’s important not to compare “bests”
  5. Creating  and learning to trust yourself
    • This means being completely honest with yourself
    • If you can’t trust yourself to take care of yourself, it’ll be difficult not to sabotage positive behaviors and/or to not judge yourself
    • The question is: Can you really love yourself wholly if you don’t trust yourself?
  6. The way you feel about yourself is independent of other people’s approval or validation
    • No one can give you enough love to fill you up or make you feel worthy if you don’t give yourself love, as we’ve all discovered at some point
    • Conversely, no one can decrease your “love-ablity” or worthiness when you’re full of self-created-love because you’re constantly replenishing yourself
    • Others cannot take away from that because you have an endless supply of love inside of you
  7. Being brave for yourself
    • Often times, this is in the quietest of ways, like allowing yourself to cry when you’re sad or giving yourself space from a toxic person
  8. The ultimate self-love is treating everyone else with the same love that you give yourself

    • Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for your relationship with everyone so if you’re treating yourself with unconditional love, you are setting the tone and the energetic vibration for a loving relationship with everyone around you.

Meditation to Me

I can’t find a definition I like so explain what mediation means to me and a few styles.

The purpose of mediation is to quiet the mind to all the chatter and racing thoughts. But sitting cross-legged and going into “the void” where your mind is completely blank is not the easiest practice to begin without guidance. It took a very dedicated practice for me to be able to quiet my “monkey mind.” (The Buddhists call it “monkey mind,” because the mind jumps from thought to thought the way a monkey swings from one tree branch to another. So…your mind is like a giant “Barrel of Monkeys” game…. Hm. Maybe my weirdest analogy to date.)0003224404056_500x500 Continue reading “Meditation to Me”