Dating Journal Question #4

Check out this post for background on this exercise and Question #3 to get caught up.

Question #4

Step 1. List all the characteristic of your ideal partner (without mentioning looks). Do at least 20 things (even if they seem silly and small).

Example list:

  1. Kind
  2. Respectful
  3. Self-confident
  4. Supportive
  5. Generous
  6. Loyal
  7. Doesn’t play games
  8. Clear about his/her feelings
  9. Communicative
  10. Committed
  11. Loves me unconditionally

Step 2. Go back over your list…how many of the characteristics listed do you possess? Are you kind? Are you clear about your feelings? Do you play games? Do you love yourself unconditionally?

If you are not clear about your feelings, how can you expect a partner that is clear? Why does the other person need to do all the work? Why do they have to be clear about their feelings but then you do not have to reciprocate? Why do they have to make themselves vulnerable if you are not going to be clear about your feelings? That seems a little unfair, selfish, and cowardly.

So if you really want a partner with the characteristics you’ve listed, the following question is, how do I go about adopting these characteristics myself? And eventually you can pull in a partner like your list.

Dating journal questions #1

Spring is in the air and so is love, so we’re focusing on relationships for this segment.

As mentioned in the What Do You Want? post, if you don’t know what you want, then it doesn’t matter what you get. So, it would make sense that to get what you want, you need to know what you want. I will be posting some journaling prompts to help clarify what you want so you can manifest the right relationship for you and also help you to notice and set boundaries when you are in something you don’t want but are allowing. Continue reading “Dating journal questions #1”

Body Image Journal Prompts

Grab your Purge journal, find a private place, and let’s clean out some emotional wounds!

Let the emotions and words flow freely. There’s no right or wrong. It’s possible in your journaling to connect to things that originally felt unrelated or that you didn’t want to look into. Do what feels safe and comfortable. Stretch yourself but only to the point that is safe. Remember emotions are temporary, especially if we express them in a healthy way like writing. And they become even more temporary and manageable the more we process them in these healthy ways.

Enjoy uncovering the layers and good luck!

If your body never changed from this moment, could you love and accept yourself wholly? Continue reading “Body Image Journal Prompts”

Have no fear, your journals are here!

The journaling basics for healthy processing of emotions

Dear Diary,

Wait until you hear this shizzz….

Who had a diary growing up? Show of virtual hands.

I know many of us were given diaries as gifts and, if you were anything like me as a 90’s kid, it left you with a collection of mostly blank Lisa Frank notebooks. Today, I’m asking you to make up with your diary…well, maybe not the Lisa Frank one. Continue reading “Have no fear, your journals are here!”