A plea to my fellow Millennials…
I’m tired of all the memes, posts, and quotes about savagery, “don’t catch the feels,” and hashtags about waste his/her time in 2017. What a bunch of babies we Millennials are. Sorry—but it’s true. When I come across these posts, instead of seeing a strong, independent, badass image the person is attempting to display, I just see fear. I see someone scared shitless of their emotions, and I think, “how sad for them to be so trapped in their own emotional and mental prison.”
So I wonder…how did this happen? Were we coddled too much by our helicopter baby boomer parents? Were we given too many “participation awards” when we actually lost? Were we pushed too much to succeed and look good for others rather than to feel good for ourselves?
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8 behaviors that create and define self-love
The following habits are both causes and symptoms of self-love.
- Making your own health (mental, emotional, physical, or spiritual) a priority
- This doesn’t always mean “me over you,” but that your needs and health are a top priority
- Taking care of yourself and your needs
- If you need a day to in bed, take that day
- Accepting yourself wholly and unconditionally
- Not judging yourself
- It’s accepting even your least favorite parts of yourself (this doesn’t mean settling, it means accepting yourself as you are and taking responsibility for your choices, habits, feelings, and lifestyle)
- Pushing yourself gently and lovingly to do and be your best while keeping in mind the aforementioned points
- Best means something different to everyone
- “Best” for an athlete is going mean something different than “best” for a student, or a doctor, or a model, or a stay at home mom, or a cancer survivor…each of these people’s respective bests are going to be different therefore it’s important not to compare “bests”
- Creating and learning to trust yourself
- This means being completely honest with yourself
- If you can’t trust yourself to take care of yourself, it’ll be difficult not to sabotage positive behaviors and/or to not judge yourself
- The question is: Can you really love yourself wholly if you don’t trust yourself?
- The way you feel about yourself is independent of other people’s approval or validation
- No one can give you enough love to fill you up or make you feel worthy if you don’t give yourself love, as we’ve all discovered at some point
- Conversely, no one can decrease your “love-ablity” or worthiness when you’re full of self-created-love because you’re constantly replenishing yourself
- Others cannot take away from that because you have an endless supply of love inside of you
- Being brave for yourself
- Often times, this is in the quietest of ways, like allowing yourself to cry when you’re sad or giving yourself space from a toxic person
- The ultimate self-love is treating everyone else with the same love that you give yourself
- Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for your relationship with everyone so if you’re treating yourself with unconditional love, you are setting the tone and the energetic vibration for a loving relationship with everyone around you.
The definition of self-love I learned on my own journey
What self-love means to me is…fighting for yourself. Fighting for yourself without allowing for surrender. There’s no option to surrender because surrendering is too dark to consider. Of course, there are times for rest. There are times for retreating, reevaluating, and changing strategies. There are times to venture alone and times to recruit help. Self-love is sometimes tears. Self-love is “no” when you want to say no and “yes” when you want to say yes and never the other way around. It is battles behind closed doors that no one ever sees where you beat back the darkness with the light. Even if sometimes the light seems to fade away too quickly. Self-love is being completely vulnerable with yourself. It’s acknowledging and looking at the shadowy parts of yourself, the parts you hide away or you’d rather not see, and saying, “it’s ok.” Self-love is a muscle, a tree, a building. It doesn’t just happen, it grows. You don’t wake up one morning bursting with self-love. You fill yourself up, one drop at a time, until it’s a regular rhythm of your life.
A documentary that greatly helped me shift my diet and mindset about food
If you haven’t seen the documentary Hungry for Change do you and your 80 year old self a favor and give it a watch on Netflix. You might live for a million years after you adopt it as part of your life. (Ok maybe not a million. But why limit yourself?) I say that because this gives a more holistic view of the food industry, processed food, a healthy relationship with food and our bodies, and our diet. Not our diet, like the restrictive plan we do for 3 days before breaking and eating a whole pizza. Our diet, which as they explain in the film, is defined as the way an organism usually eats. Many people in the holistic health world share their knowledge throughout so you’re bound to find someone’s story that resonates with you.
I share this because this helped me shift my mindset about the food and chemicals I was putting in my body. Everything they say is sustainable and realistic. It’s about shifting your lifestyle to being more mindful and being intentional about nourishing your body, rather than just feeding it. I definitely recommend it for everyone looking for a healthier long-term lifestyle.