Dating Journal Question #2

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These journaling prompts will help clarify what you want so you can manifest the right relationship for you and also help you to notice and set boundaries when you are in something you don’t want but are allowing.

Be honest with yourself during these questions. Your Purge Journal is a safe place for you to process.

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Dating journal questions #1

As mentioned in the What Do You Want? post, if you don’t know what you want, then it doesn’t matter what you get. So, it would make sense that to get what you want, you need to know what you want. I will be posting some journaling prompts to help clarify what you want so you can manifest the right relationship for you and also help you to notice and set boundaries when you are in something you don’t want but are allowing. Continue reading “Dating journal questions #1”

You’re on that dating app to feed your ego not to find a mate.

Does that bring up some emotion for you? Perfect. Then this is probably for you.

Have you been finding you are not matching with the right people, any connection you find is brief, or it never flourishes in to a genuine relationship? If so…

Do you go on these sites when you’re lonely? Do you find you’re scrolling through these apps when you’re bored without a clear idea of what you want?

If so, what kind of intention are you putting out there for a relationship with these actions? Continue reading “You’re on that dating app to feed your ego not to find a mate.”

Thank you for waiting…

I keep seeing posts about replacing your “I’m sorry’s” with “Thank you’s.” Which is right up my alley. Our words are our magic! So thank you for waiting for me. I’ve been processing some things in my world and I tend to detach so I can process. But the Universe had limited patience for my stagnation and the amount of people contacting me and my loved ones about my posts was the sign I needed to get up.  

Also I’m a Gemini ♊ and we can get distracted by new ideas and projects easily. (Because new is so fun!)

So I can’t promise I won’t go underground again, especially as I’m moving forward to get my personal training certificate to combine emotional and physical health, but I can promise to do my best and be grateful for your patience and compassion in the interims.

With gratitude,

Caroline ♡

FEAR!

FEAR.

What is it good for? Absolutely nothing! (Anyone else into old Soul music? No? Well…carry on.)

What is fear good for? I bet you want to say “absolutely nothing,” and you would be wrong. Fear may not seemingly serve your highest good but fear can be used as a signal that something is off or unhealed. Similar to the way pain in the body signals that there may be injury or illness, fear can be a similar indicator for emotional health.

If we’re experiencing fear we’re usually living in the future. Eckhart Tolle explains that anxiety, worry, and stress, which are forms of fear, occur from living too much in the future. We don’t fear things in the past, do we? We may be sad, bitter, regretful, or unforgiving of the past but we don’t fear it.

Why do we fear the future? Because it’s uncertain, right? How many times have you thought, “…but what’s gonna happen?!” We don’t know! We don’t know. I stopped offering readings about the future because questions about the future are fear-based and I didn’t want to feed that mindset. The inquirer is looking for control of their fate. You never find yourself wondering, “hey what’s happening right now?” because you’re in the now. Right now, you’re sitting reading this. You never get anxious about something you’re doing right now. But you can be anxious about something you’re doing in 1 minute or what we assume and outcome will be in the future.

Anxiety, fear, worry comes from filling in the blanks. We assume we know what’s going to happen. We write in the story before it even happens. And the outcome, that we’ve made in our own minds is what makes us anxious. Or worried. Or stressed.

For example: I have a big test coming up. Right now, I am here studying but I start thinking, “What if I don’t pass? What if I can’t do it? What if I let everyone down? What if I’m not smart enough? What if _______?” And I go down the rabbit hole of all these elaborate and awful scenarios that will never happen but that make me sick with worry and anxiety. But what’s actually happening to me in real life, in that moment? What am I actually doing? I’m sitting here studying. Still haven’t taken the test. The anxiety is entirely self-created by me projecting out into the future. In that moment, I’ve just created my own personal hell by making assumptions and stories about the future. (And let’s be honest, how many times do the things we worry about actually happen? How many times have you actually had that confrontation you went over a million times in your mind? And how many times has the outcome to a situation been more manageable or better than you could have planned?)

So if fear-based emotions are self-created, why do we do it? Why do we indulge? Why would anyone want to do that to themselves? It may be a different answer for each person. It’s something to think about and we’ll go more into the “why,” in the another post.

In the meantime, if you find yourself living in the future and creating fear, try listing the things you are grateful for in the present moment. Even the things directly around you by saying, “I am grateful for….” Gratitude vibrates very high, like love, and is an easy method to pull yourself out of fear and back into love.

Beat the fear and choose love, my little light warriors, I’ll continue to provide to even more tools to do so.

 

 

Stop giving away your power, star dust

I don’t know who this message is for but I know it will reach you. Enjoy…

Stop giving your power away. You’re a divine being of the Universe. You are literally made of star dust. Start acting like it.

You are not at the mercy of anything other than your own mind. You’re not at the mercy of what he said, she said, he did, she did, they did. No. You are only a prisoner to your own mind. Set yourself free. You don’t have to carry everyone else’s lessons too. Just your own. Stop trying to make yourself smaller, easier, more loveable, more manageable. You are meant to be as wild as the sea from which you were born. Stop denying your nature. Stop trying to fit in other people’s small world view. These things weren’t meant for you, little one. So stop trying. Stop trying to be a thing lesser than what you already are. You are a god. A goddess. You are the master of your own mental landscape.

Stop giving the keys away to other people. Especially those who have not earned it. Sometimes they don’t deserve you, little one. No matter how much you wish they did. So forgive. And let get go. Because you no longer need to be burdened with the lessons those before you could not learn. Put it down. Put down everything that doesn’t belong to you. And there’s a lot. Because you’re a feeler. You’re a care-er. A giver. A healer. You take on the pain of those around you so they don’t have to feel it. But it’s not your pain. It’s not your lesson. You can’t heal another’s wound. Especially if they keep picking at it and re-infecting it themselves. So put it down little one. Take your hands off of other people’s wounds. Let them bleed. Let them learn. Not because you’re heartless. Not because you don’t care.  Not because they don’t matter. But because you’re giving your power away.

You’re draining your vital energy into something that people can’t heal from the outside. Everyone must heal from the inside out. Even the people you love. Even YOU. So stop trying to bring people to the light. You can’t make people see when they refuse to open their eyes. Instead, heal yourself inside out and live the light. Be the light for everyone around you.

You’re made of star dust.

You’re a divine being made from the stuff of the heavens.

Start acting like it.

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Manifestation Prompt for Career

In my last post, I talked about the importance of knowing what you want.newproject_1_original.jpg To make deciphering your wants easier and quicker, I am providing a free PDF for  your convenience! Did the masses say instant gratification? Feel gratified, my friends.

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What do you want?

If you don’t know what you want, then it doesn’t really matter what you get.

Harsh but true. If you don’t know what you want your career to look like, then it doesn’t matter what job you work. If you don’t know what kind of relationship you want, then any type or relationship is fine.

It seems so simple but knowing what you want is so important. If you don’t know, how can you 1) go after what you want and 2) energetically pull in what you want?  It’s impossible. Without a clear focus and a destination in mind, you’re sending the Universe mixed signals (and we all know how confusing it is to be on the receiving end of those…ever dated the appropriately labeled “fuck boy/girl?”).

I’m going to tell you a secret that can change your life if you’re willing to embrace it: It’s entirely possible to create the life of your dreams.

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Please “catch the feels”

I’m exhausted.

I’m tired of all the memes, posts, and quotes about savagery, “don’t catch the feels,” and hashtags about waste his/her time in 2017. What a bunch of babies we Millennials are. Sorry—but it’s true. When I come across these posts, instead of seeing a strong, independent, badass image the person is attempting to display, I just see fear. I see someone scared shitless of their emotions, and I think, “how sad for them to be so trapped in their own emotional and mental prison.”

So I wonder…how did this happen? Were we coddled too much by our helicopter baby boomer parents? Were we given too many “participation awards” when we actually lost? Were we pushed too much to succeed and look good for others rather than to feel good for ourselves?

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